Your first kiss at your wedding may seem simple enough, perhaps undeserving of too much attention. However, this special moment marks a key point during your ceremony and immediately follows the declaration of your newly wedded status. That said, and considering it’s also one of the most highly anticipated parts of the ceremony, it definitely deserves a little preparation.
The last thing you want to do is leave the crowd feeling awkward and uncomfortable and covering their eyes. Here are some tips and ideas to help you prepare for that sweet first wedding kiss on your big day!
How Long Should We Hold The Kiss?
This is probably one of the most important things you should consider when planning out your first kiss. If it’s too drawn out, things could get awkward for your guests. If it’s too short it will seem non-sincere and forced. Try to time your kiss just so it’s long enough to show the love and intimacy between one another, but save the long make-out session for the honeymoon.
You also need to keep in mind that the photographer needs time to get the shot. The first wedding kiss only happens once. Sure, the photo could be re-created if absolutely necessary, but it wouldn’t be genuine and true-to-the-moment. The photographer(s) usually has to move around a good bit to get different angles and make sure they get all of the special shots. They can’t be in two places at once. They may also need a second to zoom in. So, when the first kiss takes place, keep in mind that this moment is being captured and make sure that you give the photographer a few seconds before ending the kiss. Trust me, this is a moment you will want captured!
How Intimate Should The Kiss Be?
The next thing you will need to consider when thinking about your first wedding kiss is how much is too much? You need to find the balance between expressing your love for one another in an intimate way without going overboard and completely devouring one another. The first kiss can appear intimate without appearing full blown sexual.
Do not be afraid to touch bodies and embrace one another. If you are standing too far apart and just lean in for a quick peck, it can come off as fake and just “part of the ceremony.” One great way to pull this off is to have the Groom pull his Bride into him (chest to chest) and then go in for in the kiss.
Communicate The Timing With Your Photographer
As mentioned earlier, this will be one of the special moments of your ceremony that you will definitely want to end up in your wedding album. A few key shots that every photographer aims to capture at ceremonies is the Groom seeing his Bride walking down the aisle for the first time, the ring exchange, and the first kiss.
The first wedding kiss seals the deal! It signifies that you are officially husband and wife and that your journey as newly-weds can now begin. This is why it is so important that your photographer captures this moment. Communicating with your photographer ahead of time and letting him/her know the exact planned timing of the first kiss during the ceremony can help you ensure that this shot won’t be missed.
Close Your Eyes!
Although this isn’t a lesson on kissing in general, one key component to executing an appealing kiss is to close your eyes. Remember when you had your first kiss in middle school and you had no clue what you we’re doing? Keep in mind that even this kiss is a special moment between Bride and Groom. But, also keep in mind that you do have an audience. The last thing you want is them judging you on the fact that you didn’t even close your eyes for your first kiss. When all eyes are on you, people will judge small details like this.
Focus On Your Partner:
Many things about a wedding can be stressful. The planning, the costs, preparing for the ceremony, etc. Walking down the aisle in front of potentially hundreds of guests can be intimidating and nerve-racking. When it comes to the first wedding kiss, you may be tempted to just move in quickly just to get it over with. This mindset could ruin your first kiss. The last thing you want to do is move in so quickly that bump heads or completely miss altogether.
Take the time to lock eyes with your partner before moving in. Move in slowly, embrace one another, and just focus on your new Bride or Groom. This will make the kiss much more genuine and meaningful to not only you and your new spouse, but also to your guests.