The Maid of Honor is typically the bride’s best friend, sister, or close relative. The Maid of Honor duties list can be vast, so we’ve put together a concise list to help you out. Instead of bombarding you with any and every possible thing that a maid of honor does before, during, and after the wedding, we’ll separate the roles into two categories, 1) primary duties and 2) other duties.
3 Primary Maid of Honor Duties
Here are the main duties of the Maid of Honor for most weddings. In our opinion, these are the three most important duties for the Maid of Honor.
- Maid of Honor Speech – This is the big one and the one that most maid of honors are most nervous about. For tips on the Maid of Honor speech, see this article on how to write a maid of honor speech.
- Bridal Shower and Bachelorette Party – Before the wedding, the maid of honor is typically in charge of throwing the bride a bridal shower and/or bachelorette party.
- Holding the Bouquet and Helping with the Wardrobe – During the ceremony, the maid of honor is commonly in charge of holding the bride’s bouquet. If the dress has a long train, the maid of honor is also in charge of making sure the dress looks neat and orderly.
15 Other Maid of Honor Duties
Now that we’ve listed the primary Maid of Honor duties, here is a list of other possible duties of a rockstar Maid of Honor. Many of the duties below will be handled by a good Wedding Planner, but there are times when the Maid of Honor should step up and help out. Also, many of these things kind of “go without saying” and are just natural instincts for good friends. So all in all, don’t stress too much about each and every point. Just be there for her and ready to help when needed.
- Planning Process Help (Selecting Vendors, Discussing Styles, Etc)
- Dress Shopping
- Being The Point Of Contact For The Entire Bridal Party
- Being The Point Of Contact For The Wedding Vendors (Planner, Photographer, Etc)
- Mediating Conflict (If Necessary)
- Holding The Bride’s Phone
- Preparing A “Wedding Survival Kit” For The Entire Wedding Party
- Keeping Track Of Gifts
- Dropping Off Any Reception Items
- Keeping The Bridal Suite Organized
- Keeping The Bride Energized, Fed, And Hydrated
- Helping The Bride Get Dressed (And Go To The Restroom)
- Helping The Bride Stay Fresh And Touched Up
- Holding The Partner’s Ring (Until The Ceremony)
- Helping To Gather Friends And Family For Wedding Photos
The last tip is to make sure you enjoy yourself. Don’t allow yourself to get stressed, as that stress can inadvertently get passed along to the wedding couple. No wedding goes without a few minor hiccups, so just do your best to be supportive with lots of positive vibes. A wedding is a celebration of many relationships, not just the relationship between the wedding couple but also between their families, friends, and of course, the maid of honor.